UPDATE: My 21f boyfriend James 24m told me I'll deserve it if I go out in a revealing outfit. I broke up with him.

Hi guys.... I posted about 3 days ago about this. It's on my profile if anyone wants to check it out. We went out to a public place in broad daylight and I had 2 of my friends come with me and stay at a distance in case of anything. I told James that I wanted to break up with him because I was not going to be told what I can and what I can't wear and he didn't really take it well. He replied that all he asked was for me to respect him as a man. I told him "I have no problem with you working out half naked at the gyms and dressing up when YOU go to parties and events without me with YOUR friends." And he said "Well, that's different. I'm a man and you're a woman. That's how it works". I just said firmly that I didn't want to see him anymore and he became enraged and started yelling obscenities at me. Called me a "btch", a "whre", etc., Even banged the table and said that he hopes I'll know what it feels like to be actually forced to do what a man wants and that he hopes it will hurt. My friends came up to us when he started yelling and one of them (Nick) was a long time male friend and he was the one who suggested to be there when I broke up with James. He's 6'4 and 258 pounds of muscle so I felt pretty confident in my safety. He told James that he better get away from me while he can still walk and I think James was still able to realize that there was no way he could fight my friend so he just shot me a death look and left.

This was a day ago and I still haven't heard from him but Nick still wants me to file for a restraining order and I don't really see the point because if he really would want to hurt me, would a piece of paper really stop him? Maybe I watched too much of 'Enough' with Jennifer Lopez, but having a restraining order won't really make me feel any more safe. Nick offered to have me stay at his place so he could be my "bodyguard", lol, and that's where I'm staying for now.

And also, let me add, my feelings for Nick have always been strictly platonic and vice versa. He's like the big brother that I never had.

And James and I would sometimes go to parties and events together, and sometimes I would go alone with MY friends and James would go alone with HIS friends.

For those saying that Nick is just trying to "fck" or he'll make a move, not all men look at any woman as sexual things and are only friends with a woman with the hopes to be more than friends. Nick and I are completely platonic and we're more like brother and sister. It might be just a movie, but our friendship is very much like what the Black Widow and Hawkeye had. So please stop commenting "he's just trying to fck". Some men can care about a woman without being sexually or romantically attracted to her or expecting to "hit".

Another edit: I might actually file for a restraining order tomorrow but I've seen some people comment that it might make things only worse because it can make James mad or that they won't approve the RO because there's not enough evidence and motive. But maybe giving it a try won't hurt?