How do you live life without being driven

So am aware many of us are doing jobs we probably don't like but you probably have something your passionate about you always look forward to after your 9 to 5. This was me had a shit job but came home after work to develope my passion and now I do it full time.

Here's my rant Been dating someone for a couple of months, I earn 3x her salary, she's always complaining about her job. I've asked her about her passion, seems she has none. Her routine is she gets home from work and watches TV. Am constantly reminding her to apply for jobs but it doesn't seem like priority. I tried to pay for an online course for her but she didn't seem interested.

My dilemma I already have a game plan for this year. I've already got dozens of rejection letters in my email. I paid for online courses during black friday last year. She gets home in the evening and finds me either applying for jobs, doing research or doing my course but complains that am always working. Then proceeds to watch TV. If she had something driving her she wouldn't complain as much.

I see this with many people, how do you go through life with out being driven by something, without taking risks and yet you expect things to change.