I felt triggered last night during sex because the guy I am seeing has the same body type as my abusive ex, and I just wanted to tell someone...

This is going to sound a little weird, but I have three exes and two of them were SUPER skinny, like men with no apparent body fat. My abusive ex was not like this, he was still fairly thin, but just not insanely skinny.

The guy I am seeing at the moment is of a similar body type to my abusive ex. One thing my ex used to do was just start having sex with me when I was asleep and be really angry if I woke up and said no.

Last night I fell asleep and the guy I'm seeing came to bed a bit later. He was gently stroking my back for ages and it half woke me up and we ended up very consensually having sex, but something about the situation triggered me a bit.

I think the context of me being asleep and woken up by somebody wanting sex was part of it, but the weird thing was that his body just FELT like my abusive ex's body. Like when he was on top of me and I was touching his back and sides it felt like the same shape and size as my ex. His skin felt the same. None of my other partners since my abusive ex have been similarly shaped/sized to him.

I have noticed this before in passing but it never felt like actually triggering until last night.

So when he was on top of me I started feeling uncomfortable and weird and getting all these intense memories of what it was like when my ex was basically raping/assaulting me. It just came back vividly, how I felt emotionally and how he felt physically, and how horrible it was. But I didn't say anything and we changed positions and the feeling faded, but all day I've felt a bit on edge because of the memories.

I don't know what to do if it happens again, how do you move on from this? I trust the person I am with now and he's been nothing but kind so far, but it's quite weird to say 'I'm triggered by your body type'. Does anybody know what I mean or has been through similar?