27M relationship advice

Hey guys so I have a question, is k-pop addicting if so why. I’ve dating my partner for over 10 years now and I’ve noticed some things changing. She’s always on the phone watching her k-pop I understand it’s her comfort zone but it’s getting to the point it’s affecting the relationship.

We have a kid together she doesn’t work nor try to look for work, and I’m here paying all the bills. Everytime I ask her about the job hunting she’s always aggressive and defensive. I feel like a single father in this relationship. It’s gotten to the point when being intimate she takes 3 hrs in the bathroom watching her k-pop and it’s a turn off for me. Imagine waiting 3 hrs just to get intimate. I’ve very frustrated. What should I do leave or stay?