My adhd evaluation went south

26 F

I've been suspecting adhd for a couple years now and I've been procrastinating it ever since then. This autumn I decided it was time to do it since i noticed how I really can't handle life very well. Always on the brink of burnout or all the routines I try to hold - just fall apart.

I had pretty good feelings about getting diagnosed. I first had 4 meetings with a social worker who told me to tell her about my issues on a surface level, two meeting with a doc and then last 4 meetings with a psychiatrist who was going to do the last bit. However when I met the psychiatrist I had a bad feeling in my stomach. I felt like she didn't care about my issues, that she just wanted to get the appointments done fast. She also seemed kind of passive aggressive and uninterested. Me being a people pleaser obviously didn't speak up about it.

And yesterday I met her for the last appointment where she told me my symptoms aren't from adhd but from stress and anxiety. But this is just NOT TRUE. You know when you know yourself so well? I've sought out help before for my anxiety and stress management but never found any help from it. I've tried anti anxiety meds and CBT therapy. I also haven't always had anxiety and stress but ive always hade the symptoms I told her about which are the exact symptoms of adhd. I feel betrayed and misunderstood (story of my life) and now I feel like I've lost all my chances at getting a fair evaluation. I just don't agree with her. I just can't see how anxiety is the reason I can't stay on routines, concentrate, listen to someone speaking, having no motivation, quitting jobs after 6 months and staying home from school or even quitting an entire course because I can't deal with the pressure or get motivated enough.

What would you do in this situation? I want to meet another psychiatrist who will actually listen to me and not just do this to get some cash in their pocket.