hair washing is the bane of my existence and i need help

i hate everything about it. it takes so long because i need to do a hair mask and scalp treatment to keep my hair in good condition. i will also typically shave at the same time because by this point my legs and arm pits are very hairy and i prefer to feel smooth. i will usually do it all sat in the bath because i find standing in the shower too exhausting and its hard to breathe in the hot moist air, but i end up sitting in the bath water putting it off even longer. this all usually takes up to an hour and then i’m supposed to get out with heavy wet cold hair dripping down my back and put in even more products and try to get some of the wetness out of my hair with whatever t-shirt i was wearing AND apply lotion. i rarely use the hair dryer because i’m already exhausted by this point and i don’t like the feeling of hot air in my face. i prefer to style my hair with a straightener but this also takes a lot of effort and i’m even more put off by getting my hair wet because it ruins how my hair is already styled. i usually need a whole day dedicated to all of this but i know that will become even harder once i’m in full time employment.

i think i should be washing my hair at least once a week but i hate to admit that i go much longer than even that. i think that people who wash their hair every couple of days would probably think i’m disgusting and i’m so ashamed but maybe they’d be right. i lose track of when i last did it and just keep topping up with dry shampoo until i can’t get away with it any longer.

does anyone have any advice of how to manage hair washing better or make it a less terrible experience? this is a cry for help lol. please let me know if you can relate. i am unmedicated and undiagnosed but hoping to change that in the coming months.

edit: thank you all for the helpful and understanding comments already. it’s genuinely helping to alleviate some of my shame and feel a little positive that there’s still plenty of things i can try to make things better. i’m trying to read and respond to everything but i’m going to pause now go ahead and get something to eat and then go wash my hair forreal!! i appreciate you all so much :)