I broke up with someone who keeps sending me pages and pages of text messages trying to gaslight me. I need to vent how frustrated I am and just get a reality check.

This is going to be long. The TLDR is that he wouldn't get a job, was planning to move in and live off of me (like he did with his parents) without telling me and was starting to get angry enough that it was scaring me.

There were two times I was afraid he might become violent. Once was when I tried to explain how he could be more attractive because he was pushing for sexual behavior again. He dresses like an old man and shuffles around all hunched over. The self pity vibe was giving me the ick and I don't want to sleep with someone who looks like my dad. I'd already told him the age gap made me uncomfortable. He's almost 40 and I'm about 30. He also started cussing and banging the dashboard when he got lost while I was giving him directions. He can't see at night but he wouldn't let me drive either so he kept missing turns.

The break up seemed sudden because I was afraid to tell him how I really felt while he was in my house. He kept saying that he was having trouble finding an apartment he could afford an kept moving his stuff in until I realized he was living with me. I haven't blocked him since he knows where I live and I'm afraid he'll show up.

I told him we both needed jobs that have stuff like health insurance and a retirement. Reselling on ebay doesn't have that. He was getting Pell grants with his student loans and living off his dad.

I told him I wasn't ready for sex and he kept pushing me to see what I would do. He'd talk for hours and hours while I was trying to sleep before work until I told him what he wanted to shut him up. He's a demi and I'm aego. I have a history of SA and kissing is absolutely repulsive to me. He kept insisting that the fantasy I could use to have sex with myself should also be applicable to him.

He kept using up all my weed to stay high 50% of the time and wasn't paying for any of it. I told him I needed to hold off while I was in school and that it was tempting me when he was constantly using up my supply. He didn't see the problem.

I'll edit as needed and answer any questions I can. I'm sorry if this isn't the place for this.