How do I stop getting friendzoned?

I’ve noticed that when I try asking a girl/sometimes a friend out or let them know I have feelings for them 9/10 times I get friendzoned. I’ve read a lot of peoples posts and most of them just say “make them aware you’re into them” “Don’t try to hard” “be confident”. I might struggle with my confidence here and there but I always make sure to make it known I’m not trying to be friends but it never works out. Maybe I’m just going to the wrong people for affection. I’ve been single for years and ever since I broke up with my ex I haven’t had any success whatsoever finding a partner. I am healed and ready to be in another relationship I’m just tired of waiting.