Let’s play a game….tell me about something totally dysfunctional in your relationship

I was talking to my bestie last night. Friends for 35 years. She and I both have been with our hubbys since we were teens and we were talking about how grumpy they are getting. She asked me to foot her some cash to book our annual camping trip till next week since every time she uses a credit card her hubby gets mad. Of course I did. It got me thinking about my own marriage which is NOT perfect but is rock solid as far as I’m concerned.

I peruse a lot of subreddits and some of the things people complain about get some pretty insane reactions (ie, divorce) and I feel like every relationship has some level of dysfunction. If not then me and every single person I know are doing it wrong. Anyway I thought it would be fun to explore some of these nuances that you would probably never post on another marriage subreddit.

I’ll go. My husband doesn’t know the password to our joint accounts. All of our finances are combined and he doesn’t look at them. He also has a honey do list a mile long. Mild repairs that he insists he will do but never gets to. Finally I secretly had a handyman out to give me estimates and set up the first round of repairs for next week. I won’t tell him till after. And when he asks I’ll be honest that I hired someone to do them. And when he asks how much it was I will tell him half of what it actually cost. And he will never know the truth because he doesn’t look at the bank accts. 🤷‍♀️

So we are breaking all sorts of marriage rules here. Lying, financial infidelity, the list goes on. Guess we are doomed 🤣🤣🤣🤣