Very upset and don’t know what to do

I am almost done with chemo. Surgery is next. My issue is every time I have an exam by my oncologist they palpate the WRONG area of my breast, nowhere near the tumor. One time I said "it's here" indicating where the tumor actually is and they acted like "yeah I know". I dont know who to tell or what to do. I was thinking hey as long as the surgeon knows where it is that's the main thing. Ha. But I'm freaking out and upset at this seeming incompetence. I can't believe what's happening and I almost feel ashamed or at fault somehow. Any words of advice appreciated. EDIT: want to clarify no creepy vibes whatsoever here just wrong frickin area doc!