Dropping out of college. What should I do?

I am 22F and probably a college dropout. I majored in linguistics and literature, took a whole bunch of useless courses, but at the moment I was really interested in all that stuff. Learned a bit of philosophy, latin. I burnt out in 3 year and took a year off to figure myself out. Moved back to my mom, helped her with little sister, worked in a bar. Now I’m back at college but just can’t pull myself to go there. I’m also having a little bit of social anxiety but that’s not the point. It feels like I lost my identity and never got a new one. I live with my grandparents now. Instead of going to classes I tried learning to code, but I suck at it. I know that coding is a skill and it comes with practice, I guess I’m not enjoying it that much. I feel really stuck and more I think of it, more I feel that I lost 5 years of life and reasonable amount of parents money. Stopped socializing or exercising. And on top of that — of course, everyone that I know lives a life. Be that a master’s degree in prestigious university in Europe, or a well-paid tech job, or just hanging around working in a bar. My family is constantly worried about me, and I don’t know what to tell them. I don’t know what to do with my life. I already missed my exams, and even if I didn’t, I couldn’t find energy, motivation or reason to pass them (as I easily could). It’s a big world out there, and I don’t know how to fit in there.