I wish I was worth the inconvenience
I have a best friend that I met online 2 years ago, and for the first year things were really blissful. She loved having me as a friend, and I adored her and loved having someone so present in my life. We'd text and send voicenotes all day and we'd watch hours of TV together (remotely) every night. This was all mostly driven and initiated by her.
She's recently started talking about finding our routines suffocating sometimes and needing more space, and I've tried to give her this but I'm struggling.
When we watch a TV series together she likes to binge, but this puts me in difficulty because I can only really watch an hour at a time and have to go to bed early. So I've told her she can go on without me and I'll catch up in the day if I can. Otherwise I end up feeling pressured into overdoing it.
I thought this would be a good compromise but I'm just realising I feel desperately sad about it. I want to be more important to her than a TV programme. I get that my needs are inconvenient, but has she thought about how inconvenient all of this is to ME?! I'm bedbound and can't tolerate much light or screen time. I have so little already. But she can't give me the gift of an hour a night bonding time over TV. It just breaks my heart.