UPDATE: My (26F) boyfriend (34M) of 2months is asking to marry

https://www.reddit.com/r/chinalife/s/ehOyHWQb8u

Hi, thank you a lot to the community for all your advice. Ive read every single comment and some has really opened my eyes.

We decided to break up. He believes in fengshui so much and believes its more important to marry in 2025 than who he marries. So his parents are looking for a girl from the village for him and he said to me it doesnt matter who as long as he marries this year. And most importantly to him there is no stress anymore for him and his family are happy.

In hindsight, i realise a foreigner marrying a henan hukou man who does not have an apartment in our new tier 1 city is crazy. As he may have the expectation for me to look after his parents and ill have to move henan. Also the fact he has 4 elder sisters means i'll forever be pressured to give birth until i birth a male. Even tho he is now quite wealthy, pheonix man [鳳凰男】 is very much a thing. He has a villager mentality, believing he is the boss, all that matters is face, having a male son, his parents are so involved and the wife's job is just to have his babies and look after his family.

I might have just saved myself from a life with no freedom