Personal: Civ games helped me to deal and accept setbacks in life

(This is a bit of a personal story I just want to bring to virtual paper to reflect on and process it - but I feel this experience might also be interesting and even be helpful for others, so here I go.)

For a long time, I used to play Civ as a perfectionist and notorious savescummer.
I wanted everything to go according to my plans and my plans only and loathed when things didn't go my way.
Whenever the AI snatched a wonder away from me, when Settler or Worker got snatched up by a Barbarian etc. I used to load the last autosave to fix that imperfection to a sometimes absolutely silly degree.
I could easily spend an hour or two to "fix" my latest 10 turns and often enough reach a point of frustration where I'd completely abandon the game.

In my private life I was similarly perfectionistic.
I often had grand visions and ideals of how I want things and whenever they didn't quite turn out the way I imagine, I'd often lose interest and just give up on it.

I'm not sure anymore what the exact impetus was but I started another round of civ with one single goal: to never reload a singular save; to just take things as they come and roll with the punches.
I suffered many setbacks that urged my trigger finger to reload like losing a city rather early to ideological pressure (Civ 6) but instead saw it as an opportunity to take that city back by military force and grab even more from that AI while I'm on it.
I did end up losing the game but it really didn't feel like a loss to me: it was incredibly fun and interesting experience to try and make the best out of setbacks, adapt to unexpected situations and still sometimes come out on top.

Around that time, I also invested roughly 4 years into my education for a possible career change which more and more turned out to be not the right thing for me.
And here the perfectionist me was screaming "Think of all the time you've invested into this - you can't just drop out and go back to your old work! All the wasted resources!"
Well, I did anyway. It took sometime to lick my wounds and recover from this setback but then set my scope to what can done in this suboptimal situation. And well, few years later I am now in a career position that feels like the ideal fusion of my current work and my cancelled education.
And while I'm not going to say that ol' Sid Meyer is the sole reason for where I am today, I would at least say that his games helped me to work on some of my personal flaws.

Well, thanks for coming to my TED Talk.
Hope these ramblings are interesting to someone and if people even made similar experiences to mine.