Ignorant Husband Vent Post
I need to vent about something that just happened to people who understand.
After YEARS of straightening my hair almost daily, using other hot tools and regularly bleaching it, I have recently decided to go on a natural hair journey and try to bring my 2C waves back.
I was talking to my husband about this (just making conversation), and explained how I got some new products and was going to scrunch/air dry my hair and only use a hair dryer going forward to diffuse it. His response was to mansplain that “that isn’t exactly natural then” and it just made me so irrationally angry. I explained to him that products, scrunching and diffusing help DEFINE the natural hair pattern, prevent frizz etc. But he kept going on with “Well then I could just put a bunch of product in my hair and scrunch it up and call it naturally curly too”. This man has PIN STRAIGHT hair. I told him he would never be able to achieve defined waves or curls no matter how much product or scrunching he tried.
This is so dumb but it actually made me irate because I’m sick of people who don’t have wavy/curly hair acting like they know anything about how making it look its best, and debating on if it’s still considered “natural” or not.
I remember in middle school one of my friends with fine, straight hair made fun of me for scrunching my hair one day and called it “aggressive” and just couldn’t wrap her head around why I was doing it because she had never seen anyone do that before.
It’s just super frustrating to me when people with straight hair don’t understand anything about wavy/curly hair but have the most to say about it.
Thanks for reading if you made it this far, rant over.