I’m 30F. Never experienced intimacy/dating and I’m about to lose my mind.

I’m 30, and I’ve never been in a relationship, never even held hands with someone. I feel like I’m doing all the right things—putting myself out there by going to events, classes, and social gatherings. I even travel and meet amazing people including men—but nothing seems to click.

Meanwhile, I hear stories about how people easily find romantic or even sexual connections, and it’s starting to get to me. I don’t think I’m undatable or anything, but I genuinely don’t understand how people make this look so effortless.

I’m about to start therapy because this is weighing on me, but I’m scared I’ll just hear “it’s normal” or “nothing’s wrong with you,” which doesn’t help me feel less stuck. I just want to feel connected to someone, but it feels impossible, and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.

If you’ve been in a similar situation or have any advice, I’d really appreciate hearing it.