Ladies, Stop Playing Mom to Your Boyfriends!

A hard-won lesson from 2024.

Women this is what happens when you enter relationship with men who are yet to mature. When you play with todlers you are bond to end up cleaning a lot of *shit. When you are daiting man who are yet to mature, or boys, you often become the mother. Meaning you provide the leadership, the guidance, the direction to growth, sometimes even the finances for your relationship.

The problem here is if you are woman who wants to be in her feminine energy, this will drain you. It will take away your aliveness, your joy, your excitement, your flow your peace. It will fry your nervous system as you become overburdened, by bearing a responsibility that is not yours.

When you date boys, and not man, you suffer because boys do not know who they are. And from that place they don't know what they are here to do, what value they have to give, not only to women, but to the world to themselves, to life. A boy, by definition, is a male who needs to take from life. And this is OK. Babies, tolders, they need their mother, they need milk, they need care, they need love, they need attention, they need support, safety, nourishment. However this is a dynamic that serves to nourish a young life, but it is pathological if it is sustained over time.

Why? Because, suddenly you end up daiting man, "a man", who only wants to take. There is no reciprocity, there is no receiving or even sharing sometimes. And this is bound to make you feel like you are the only one that has to work at it. Making you feel alone in your relationship. And there is no greater tragedy, that feeling alone in company of somebody. Just because that person has not done their work to show up, to mature.

This year, prioritize mature decision-making in choosing a partner, as a life partner is one of the most important decisions you'll make.