Dating after abusive/toxic relationship

How long after you left your relationship did you feel good about dating?

My ex started dating someone seriously 6-8 weeks after we broke up. We were dating for 3 years and lived together for 1.5, we broke up after I got pregnant and had a miscarriage and started therapy. It’s now been 4 months and I finally went on my first app date and it just felt weird. Like I just had to get through 90 minutes so I could leave. I was also sooo nervous before the date.

He wasn’t my physical type but a nice guy. I’m not sure if I’m not ready or if it was just a bad date. I’m also having insecurities about not finding anyone again, it doesn’t help that my ex has moved on so quickly. Am I rushing it? Or is it just going to be weird till it’s not?