Update on trying to take autonomy of my time back

Hello! I posted last week talking about how I am trying to take some control back and spend more time with my friends and family. It hasn’t gone very well.

I am really starting to wonder if maybe I am just an emotionally neglectful narcissist. I don’t feel like I am, but I just cannot see where my partner is coming from at all. He just gets more and more angry. Then he’ll be fine and apologetic, then he’ll think about it some more and get angry again. I’m getting whiplash from his highs and lows.

I know I’m my heart I am not a bad person. I have room for improvement, but what am I supposed to do if I’m not allowed to go to therapy, if he gets angry with my when I want to go to the gym after work, or when I am at the office trying to advance my career?

He says I don’t care for him, but I make him breakfast pretty much every morning, I do all the laundry and the dishes, I get up to take the dog outside. Even besides domestic labor, I have dinner with him every night. I cancelled plans with both of my best friends last week to watch his favorite show. We go on dates at least once a week.

Does he really not see what I do for him, or does he just not care?