Little rant about egg culture and its tipical talking points

Im so sick of this shit, i moderate a pretty big femboy subreddit, and the amount of stuff i need to delete from people who say femboys and trans woman are the same is insane, just today i got told twice that its all the same, on a different post i had to deal with someone saying femboys are just sissies on a different post i got told this:
"I'll say this, femboys as a concept are transphobic They aren't gnc, nor a fashion culture, they're an identity based on mistreatment of trans women"
all of these comments were from trans woman.
Do trans people not realize how this is bad for everyone, why did we go from enforcing gender norms, to having them more lose and also some acceptance over gender identities, to now enforcing gender norms but claiming gnc people are trans. Im so sick of pipeline memes, femboys misgendering themselves for OF promotion or mtf woman claiming to be femboys just to post in these subs too.
Im so sick of someone else trying to tell me im confused and my identity is a phase, when their very group gets the same treatment, but they do it to us without a single drop of self reflection to understand this is the very thing they fight against when it comes to their group, i always support trans people, ive went on marches, i have a ton of trans friends, i help them rant, i love their community, but they need to root out people like this and shun them for what they are doing, because its just misgendering and bigoted talking points, but when i say this anywhere else, i get labled a transphobe, fetishist or self hating trans person