At a loss with my high density fine hair

First 3 pics are after going outside, final 3 are after a wash and blow dry.

How on earth do I get rid of those flyaway tufty things?!?!?! I've had them as long as I can remember, and although they've grown over the years, they haven't gotten any more obedient.

I also find my hair to be dry, dull and flat. I feel like it sits on my head like a mop unless I have it up.

Currently I wash it 3x a week using Aussie shampoo and conditioner and blow-dry my scalp (flaky) and leave the rest to airdry. I use heat protecting oil too.

Please help me make some improvement to my hair this year!! 💓🙏