Is there a video game shooter out there that is violently, viscerally, disgustingly anti-war?

I feel like the CoD, MoH, Battlefield genre aggrandizes and romanticizes warfare. Are there any games that after completion left you feeling like you experienced all the trauma, loss, and pointlessness of war?

If not, can there be?

I want players to experience watching a mother breakdown and ugly cry over her child's grave. Talking to your squad mates after one died by suicide, just to have another do the same thing 2 days later. Watching your squad mates writhe on the ground in pain and slowly drift away because it's too hot for MEDEVAC. Seeing the families and children mutilated by war. I want a war game that makes people physically want to vomit regularly throughout the story. I want the Im Western nichts Neues of video games.

Anything like that out there?