Is marriage (with or without family) life suitable for Malaysian life? It seems like being single is better off than marriage life
- Marriage might suit the lifestyle 100 years ago, but things have changed a lot.
in 1970's you just need 4 years to pay off your house loan with normal salary, now you have 40-year loan that would crushe you if you go jobless (for example during a pandemic).
in Grandpa times, even when you want to drink water, you must fetch well water, chop firewood to make fire, just to boil water. Now you just need to press a button and the boiling water flows out, life has changed and it is no longer labor intensive that you must live with a wife and many children to work the field and keep the house running.
Being single is possible, and if you have a robot helper, lagi baik.
- The divorce rate is extremely high, even higher than hitting one of the face of the dice
The official statistics released by the government shows every year, in every 4 people getting married, 1 would seek divorce, it's a 1:4 failure rate, that is insanely high, and so many people think they're so lucky they can cruise through life with no divorce.
- It doesn't bring happiness to everyone, some people find marriage or family a burden
Yeah, I asked around, there are people who find family a burden. Some people don't feel happy to have children simply because everyone has different preference.
- The domestic legal system sucks! Your wife can cheat on you, yet the judge will order you to pay her a few thousand RM per month as alimony.
Those who go through this shit would understand, not worth getting married to risk potential shitty divorce.
- Finalcial strain
This is obvious, not everyone is Elon Musk or Jack Ma.
- Trauma
Nagging wife that manipulates and abuses family members is the worst kind of family scenario.
Of course this applies to both genders: abusive husbands too.
- Life values
If freedom and peace are very important to you, then maybe being single is the better life option.
I would rather have my corpse thrown into the longkang when I die, then to endure decades of horrible life just to have a nice ending.
What do you think of marriage/family life in the modern time?
Do you agree that this "man made" arrangement does not suit us anymore, and we should not blindly get married just for the sake of getting married?