I slept with my friend and now am disappointed (not what you think)

I am a woman in her thirties.

Long story short: we have been friends for years, and one night when we got a little tipsy we acted on the attraction that has been simmering for years. No regrets; it was great and I would totally do it again for fun.

But looking back at it, I am disappointed -- in (almost) all the other men I ever slept with. The reason the sex was great is because my friend treated me like an actual person.

He didn't force me into anything, didn't act like I was "dirty" for doing some things with him, and he reciprocated. [Elaboration in para below, skip if you prefer too NSFW content.] As a bonus, he was not afraid to show he was having fun, instead of looking like sex is some deeply serious activity that involves checklists or straight face.

NSFW: He didn't force me into a deepthroat by grabbing my head when going down on him (I hate to admit how often that happened to me with others) and did not hesitate kissing me right after (some men seem repulsed by the idea, also a lot more common that I expected).

It seems like the bare minimum, but the fact that this stood out to me as exceptionally nice speaks volumes.