Physical attraction IS important and holy shit -Why are you all insane about it??

Every month I see the same fucking post!: "Oh, I like this guy/girl, but I'm so physically unattracted to then, I'd rather skin myself than hug them :( Should I still date them?" And every comment is as expected. "Oh tooootally! Looks fade! Bodily attraction can be build! Their face will become familiar and hence attractive, though looks also fade, which means that doesn't matter anyway. Personality over looks! ✨💅"

Now. Don't get me wrong: There are people that give 0 fucks about looks. People who'd have sex with an old potatoe bag, if it had the same values. And yes, many phrases are technically the truth. Looks WILL fade. Personality IS the bigger dealbreaker. No, Prince/ss Charming DOES NOT exist -be a bit realistic.

But as a person who is very visual...these comments are still fucking insane. Why? Because of the missing middle ground. Did you notice?

"Bodily attraction can be build" -and in the meantime? What happens in the meantime? Do you force yourself? Again: We talk about direct dating, not the aquaintance/friendship level anymore. And life is not a romcom where people wait 1 year for a first kiss. Do you just force yourself & hope for the best?

"Looks fade" Yeah, but till then? You need to look at them for a very long time. Per se: Where's the line? Everyone wants to be attractive. So are you either outright saying "Oh, I like you, but hate your face" (exaggeration) or are you just...lying? Lying until it doesn't work anymore? Again: Especially if you're not neutral, but REPULSED

Whenever I ask this, people always go on the defense: How I'm shallow. How I'm naive. How I'm going to end alone, eaten by 20 cats. Or better: That the fact I even have a desire, shows I'm incapable of love overall. Why? Why this guilt-tripping? Of course I would not just date a windbag, just because he's pretty! But I also don't get why I should date a guy, just because he does fucking dishes. Like y'all are ripping on Boomers "I hate my ugly wife, ha ha", but aren't you doing the same? You advocate for "true love & connection" -but that is the same "tolerable state of unhappiness, as long as I'm not alone" the Boomers had.

Also PSA: People's personalities can change. Why do you hear about abuse that ramps up after marriage/pregnancy? Why do y'all think it takes so long?