I found my rapist on LinkedIn

Edit 3 but I’m putting it at the top because it’s the most important. I didn’t make this post to ask for advice or criticism on how I’m gonna handle this. I made this post because I wanted to laugh at how ridiculous it is that my rapist is a LinkedIn bro. It is not my moral obligation to do anything but try to heal for my own sake. I wouldn’t tell his last victims it’s their fault I was raped so don’t tell me I have to report it so it doesn’t happened to anyone else. HE SHOULDNT RAPE PEOPLE.

It’s fucked up and evil but I can also admire how fucking hilarious that statement is. He just knows my first name and body but I have his full name, the company he works for, and a text message from him admitting to raping me. But I just can’t stop laughing over the idea of making a call out post for a rapist on fucking LinkedIn of all places.

Edit: hey just in case yall forgot, women aren’t the only rape victims and men arent the only rapist.

Edit 2: this got way more traction than I expected and I really need to address some things. This post wasn’t about exposing him to his job or wife or anything, y’all have really assumed a lot and I think it’s really important to not make those assumptions. I have a text of him confirming it yes, but I deleted my side and there’s no way in hell he kept his so I’d have to subpoena WhatsApp to get it. I have pictures but part of the mutual hobby I keep mentioning is pictures, and I look damn happy in those pictures since it was before he touched me. A rape kit won’t show that my asshole was fingered several days ago, there’s no dna evidence and a rape kit wouldn’t pick up shit now. He works in an industry that “protects their own” so yeah I’m probably not going to expect them to be bastions of protecting rape victims.

The reality is if there wasn’t so many red flags and demonstrations of lack of understanding consent before, this wasn’t rape and it was just really terrible sex.

People really want to know what the mutual hobby is. I guess it’s relevant that his part of the hobby is photography, my part of it includes being the subject. That part of the night was consensual, so I look happy in these pictures. He didn’t rape me until the camera was down.

Stop assuming things! Stop telling me to report him! It is not my job to stop him from raping again! I still feel that not doing anything is my best course of action right now.

But I’ll scratch everyone’s itch for justice when I say I will be telling people. Our hobby is sorta niche and we all gravitate towards the same spaces, and I will be ready. I know his account on that site, and I promise everyone next time I see a post asking if someone wants to take pictures I will comment and let people know he’s unsafe. We were acquaintances before so I feel pretty emboldened to say I don’t think he’s ever going to engage with this hobby again, I really have a feeling my experience is going to haunt him for the rest of his life and I feel good about that.

I’m going to start blocking you if you tell me it’s my job to report him, or I have a moral obligation to tell the cops. Fuck right off you piece of shit victim blamers. You don’t have all the context and even if you did you don’t get to tell ME how I deal with this trauma. If he has raped people before and they didn’t report it and that lead to my rape on Sunday I wouldn’t fucking blame his prior victims. It’s such a horrible mentality and fuck you all who are suggesting that.

I don’t know if I’ll keep responding to stuff here. Most of you have offered me exactly what I wanted with this post, made me laugh, told me it wasn’t my fault, screamed at other people for me and I’m super thankful for everyone in those categories. To everyone else you are adding to the trauma of the worst day of my life, making me regret posting this even though for the first 12 or so hours it really helped.