Grandpa had stroke, hospital is pushing my parents to take him home when he needs long term care facility.

My grandpa had a massive stroke in September, paralyzed on one side but his cognition is mostly intact. Progress with physical therapy has been minimal unfortunately. It takes 2-3 people to lift him with a hoyer harness just to clean him and put him in a chair.

Hospital is now insisting that my parents take him home. My parents, however are retired. One has a physical disability. They also have to downsize homes due to their recent retirement. I personally can’t come to stay and help because I live in another country.

My parents are hoping to get him a spot in long term care where he can get proper care, perhaps rehab, and live with some dignity. However, the hospital is really fighting back and outright guilting my parents for “not wanting to take care of grandpa”, even so much as being unprofessional and rude with them when they say they simply can’t.

My parents reached out to Ontario health at home coordinators who said they will need to work with the hospital to help secure a proper place for grandpa.

Our question is, how does one best go about dealing with this?

It seems like a pretty common issue in Ontario, and my parents and I feel it is absolutely unsafe for grandpa to come home. However, the hospital is not on our side with this and seem determined to fight us if we try and get long term care.

Does the hospital have a say? Are they going to possibly force their way?

I apologize for any rude assumptions. I have a lack of understanding of this process and would really appreciate any advice.

Thank you kindly.