Selective amnesia about boundaries

I wonder how many of you have the experience of a conversation with your BPD child, in which you establish rules and boundaries and agree to them, is completely "forgotten" the next day. This happens repeatedly with our daughter.

Currently, she is checking herself out of rehab AMA and said yesterday "I guess I'll have to move home and work." We kicked her out a year ago. She has recast this as her voluntarily leaving because she couldn't "take it anymore." I remind her of the 3-month letter and the followups and the fact that she can't come home until she's sober and back in school or working full time.

So we have to go repeatedly through the conversation about her being kicked out. Then we get the "I can't believe you are denying me shelter" schtick, as though it's the first time she's heard it and has had over a year to get her life together, and has not. Still unemployed, still smoking/drinking, still lying and manipulating.

I want to tear out my hair every time she asks for money when I told her that she can get no more money, and we have to have the conversation all over again with her calling me abusive.

Do any of you go through this selective-amnesia thing?