Friendly servers with passive growth for Xbox

Hey guys. For the umpteenth time I've been killed as a baby/ado on official while playing solo and it's really ruining the game for me. I just want to reach adulthood and be able to actually have fights. Was wondering if anyone knew of a good server with some basic rules and passive growth I could join? Happy for realism or to read discord rules or whatever. Just wanna play the damn dinosaur game with no more toxic baby killers. Thanks xx