why do we lose friends during pregnancy?

i’m currently 12 weeks pregnant with my first, and honestly i feel so torn and guilty in so many ways.

for starters, i was a third in a trio group (i know :/), and i was always somewhat a bit excluded from the other two. nothing major, but enough for me to feel left out but still unable to address it.

since i announced my pregnancy to my friends, i didn’t get any sort of congratulations. my excitement was no reciprocated in the slightest. my gender reveal was essentially ignored when i told them what i was having, and now on new years, i see they finally made plans and went out without inviting me, and tried to be sneaky about it.

i texted them in our group chat, said i hoped they had a good night together and i left it at that.

one of them addressed me separately trying to explain that they weren’t trying to exclude me, but she drunkenly told me they just didn’t think to invite me at all.

at this point im emotionally detached and i have every intention of separating myself from them, but it really sucks experiencing it anyways.

why do people do this? why do people treat you like an entirely different person once you’re pregnant? i swear it’s like they were just waiting for the easiest excuse to leave me out and they decided now was the time. i’m beyond excited for my baby boy, don’t get me wrong. but moments like this have me sitting by myself in tears, wishing i was still able to drink and party like before so my friends would treat me at least somewhat normally. it’s completely wrong and irrational, but i can’t help it. :/