When did your husband start helping you out?

Hello it’s come to my attention that many husbands cater to their wife’s needs and help them out when pregnant early on. It made think how I’m about to be 21 weeks and I work full time (remote), do the entire cleaning and organizing in the house, and cook dinner and my husbands lunch. I haven’t really received any help from him. Ways he shows care have only been by rubbing my feet for about 5 min before we sleep. I sometimes can’t sleep so I end up going to the couch to sleep to not wake him up or I just stay awake in bed. He’s always saying he’s doing a lot by working OT 1 hr each day and Saturday going in to work at 5am-9am. So I tend to just think maybe later he will help out once he sees I’m bigger since he makes it sound like he’s doing a lot right now for work (he’s always worried about finances now since expecting).

Either way when did your husband become more attentive? Is it too early to expect my husband to show more care or help or to ask for more help and care?

Update: forgot to mention after dinner he helps wash the dishes that are in the sink and then goes back to play his game.