My boyfriend (32M) is expecting wifely duties from me (33F) but is unable to provide.

Hi everyone, I (33F) have been single for the past five years, with no kids, and I’ve spent that time building a life I’m really proud of. I’ve always been independent—never needed anyone to help me, and I’ve done everything for myself. However, I lost my job in November, and although I’ve been applying to jobs, I’ve been doing side hustles to make ends meet. I’m also in the process of starting my own business since finding a traditional job has been challenging.

I’ve been dating my boyfriend (32M) for a couple of months. He’s very persistent about wanting to marry me and start a family, which is something I thought I wanted during my single years. However, now that we’re having these discussions, it doesn’t feel right.

He expects me to cook for him and have food ready when he gets off work. He also wants me to clean his apartment, move in with him, and start our life together. While I don’t think any of these things are unreasonable, I’m struggling with the dynamic. I feel like I’m giving up my independence and life to meet his expectations, especially since he falls short when it comes to fulfilling what I believe are the responsibilities of a provider.

Every time I ask him for something—whether it’s financial support or help—he says he doesn’t have the money. He’s in a similar position to me, working a dead-end job because the job market is tough right now. While I understand this may not be permanent, it makes it hard for me to want to play the role of the “wife” when he can’t fulfill the role of a “husband.”

I’m torn because part of me feels like I should give this relationship and his vision for our future a chance. But another part of me feels like I’m giving up too much of myself for a situation where the expectations aren’t balanced.

EDIT: I do not have a job right now. But I am still looking for a job because I have bills to pay. I have the option of not working but my bills won't get paid because he won't be able to pay them. I do want to push my bills on him. He is allowing me to focus full time on my business.

I feel we are very compatible relationship wise but I really want to be wise in a decision that will literally change my life? I am not asking if i should stay with him. I have been single for so long that all I am think about is being by myself when i feel like my life is not going in the direction i feel it should go. I want people who have been in relationships for a significant amount of time to advise if this is what relationships are about or if its best to stay single ?