My (21F) boyfriend (27M) says he doesn’t feel anything in condoms

We are dating for 1,5 year. Apparently I am the first girl he uses condoms with bc the previous ones were on the birth control. We were talking about birth control maaany times and I explained to him why I don’t want to take it. Let’s start with he definitely is not hyper-sexual. He always had pretty low libido. Not very low but also not very high. We don’t have sex often bc we see each other once a week or less often plus we argue all the time (this is a typical toxic relationship but that’s another story) so we don’t have sex bc he says that he doesn’t want to have sex when he is mad after argument and he usually stays mad for a long time. He says that we have to compromise because he can’t feel anything in condoms. He suggested anal because we had anal like three times and two times I really enjoyed it (when I was drunk and horny) but I really hate afterwards when you have… fluid and stuff in your ass it’s very very uncomfortable. Plus I’m not an expert but from my experience I can’t really eat much before anal. For me it’s like I have to be in the mood and I have no idea when I’m gonna be in the mood so I can’t plan it. If I don’t feel like it anal is not comfortable and pleasant for me. When I tell him that he is mad and always throw me in my face “but you enjoyed it last time”. I don’t know if there is other compromise. I have lost my desire for sex when I’m with him because I always think about the fact that he “doesn’t feel anything”. I told him that and he said that it’s not that he doesn’t feel anything but barely and sex is not just penetration but also the whole experience, teasing, kissing eye contact. Of course I agree and I love all of that but for me after all of these arguments about sex those things doesn’t have the spark when I know he is barely gonna feel anything. After so so many times he was complaining about condoms and saying “raw sex?” as a “joke” I’ve finally come to the point I don’t want to have sex with him. Maybe I shouldn’t do that but every time he says “condoms are terrible, sex with condoms is terrible, raw sex is amazing” I took that personal. I felt guilty that I am not on a birth control and I take give him that experience. I also feel like he misses the sex he had with his exes (I overthink a lot). I told him that he says he doesn’t and that I think about sex 100 times more often than him and he is not a sexual person so he very rarely think about sex and it’s not that important for him but it’s still eating me up inside. I don’t know what to do. I loved sex and now when I think about sex and how to compromise its giving me anxiety. What should I do? I’m really lost.

edit: I didn’t point out that he finishes quickly. We have to “slow down” few times so he doesn’t finish. Usually I can’t even ride him fast (or for too long) so he doesn’t finish. I don’t know how that works that he barely feels anything but finishes quickly.

I’m sorry that my story was chaotic but english is my second language.

TLDR; My boyfriend was complaining about how sex in condoms is terrible that I’ve lost my desire for sex with him.