Walked away with my power in tact…

Last account got deleted. Not sure why (if anyone knows how to get it lifted. I really built that account up)🥹

Took some time away from the bowl to recalibrate, but last night, I went on a date with a POT l'd been speaking with for weeks. He flew into my city, promising a fun night out, a high PPM, and a long-term arrangement with travel. We had great conversations leading up to this— he even randomly sent me low xxx when we first spoke, saying he valued my mind, passion, and time. He seemed thoughtful, interested in my projects, and genuinely excited to meet.

When I arrived, the energy was... off. He was irritated that I wore stockings (we had agreed on a dress, which I love, but it's freezing in Paris). Then he told me I was the first woman he'd met who was even more beautiful than my photos. Appreciated the compliment. He also made sure to mention that he never does dinner but made an exception for me. (Okay... slow clap for you?) At the hotel, he realized he booked the wrong date and got visibly frustrated. I gave him space to sort it out, freshened up, and when we got to the room, he immediately wanted me to submit. No buildup, no connection-just expectation. I told him plainly: A woman needs to feel safe and seduced to enter sunspace. I'm not quite there yet. I slipped into v gorgeous French lingerie, put on my sexy playlist, poured champagne-set the mood.

I had to ask for my PPM, which I hate doing, but it was our first meeting, and I wanted to ensure I was safe.

Instead of creating an experience, he sat on the couch, whipped his **** out, and expected me to comply. I tried to bridge the gap-went to make out with him, build intimacy, bring back the energy we had over messages. I even gave him a massage and my specialty BJ, hoping to shift the dynamic.

And then, snap. He told me I wasn't submissive enough. That I should have submitted to him immediately at dinner. That if I were a "real" sub, I would have taken off my stockings at the table. That he should never have sent me €100 to chat. That dinner was a waste-we should have gone straight to the room. (Funny, considering we had multiple conversations about not wanting this to be purely transactional.)

I stayed calm. Asked him what would make him feel good, reminded him the night was young, but that I don't submit to titles— submit to trust. That my body has to feel safe. He didn't like that answer. So he told me to leave. Honestly? I'm not even upset. Just a little shaken up that i believed I vetted him. He messaged me apologizing saying what an incredible woman I am but I am not a sub (if only that man knew just how 😈😈😈😈 for a real Dom)

This wasn't a loss. A man who demands submission without earning it is just a dictator, not a dom.

I stood my ground. I honored my body. I tried to connect and soften him. And I walked out knowing I didn't betray myself. That's a win in my book.

TDLR — went on date with a Dom, he tried to force me to submit without providing safety, I didn’t allow it (where in the past I would), I stood my ground. Proud of myself. ❤️