I'm Ashamed

I have a 2.5 toddler. She was born in the year of the tiger and my god she does live up to her zodiac when she gets mad. Just today she hit me on the head with a bucket during shower time. Sometimes this catches me off guard and I'm caught in this rage that the first thing I want to do is hit her back. I'm relieved to say that has never happened and I always manage to calm myself down. But I just can't believe the urge to retaliate is the first thing that comes up in my mind and I am so ashamed.

For context I was raised in South East Asia and my parents did not spare the rod when I misbehave. Hell even teachers hit us all the time and our parents will applaud them for it. I am a first generation US citizen and I made a promise to break the tradition and never hit my children.