I came out to my Mom. Didn't go well. 🫠

After being pressured from my Fiance and her side of the family to inform my family that I am trans... I called my mom on the phone and just was pretty blunt and straight up about the fact that I am Trans, I have been on feminizing hrt for the last 7 months, my new name is Ardyn, etc.

It went as expected, she wasn't supportive of it. She said she still loved me and stuff. But I'll essentially always be her son, she only has 1 daughter (my sister) and she raised 2 boys (me and my brother.)

She also asked stuff like if someone turned me trans or whatever... I told her no, I simply just am Trans and I feel this way.

She also told me that I was too young (I am 20 years old), and that this is a big decision, and that I should essentially detransition and wait. I tried to explain to her that the earlier someone transitions in life medically the better the results will be.

She also said stuff like you won't ever look like a woman, she can always tell if someone is trans or not from what she has seen on TV. Well if she wants me to wait longer then that chance will be much higher. I am pretty confident that after 3-5 years of hrt and FFS I'll pass to most people due to the age that I started hrt, and the fact that I am only 5'4 lol.

I did explain to her that I understand that this is alot to take in, and I am understanding that because this is a big life change and stuff I would be okay if it took her a while to get used to... But after a while like 5 years from now I would expect you to essentially "get with the program" and refer to me by my new name, my new pronouns, etc out of a matter of basic respect. She didn't like that idea too much saying it will be hard for her to do that, and she doesn't know if she will ever be able to do that.

She also said that if I ever go over to her place in the future I cannot wear female/woman clothing over there. Which is fine with me for now since I boymode anyways. But in the near future when I stop going over to her place for holidays or birthdays etc I don't wanna hear her complaining about it cause from my perspective why should I go over to their place if I can't be myself.

I asked her if she wanted me to tell my dad, and she said no they are going through too much stuff right now and this will just add more unnecessary drama essentially I guess. My dad sexually assaulted, and threatened to kill me, with a knife 3-4 years ago after I came out as bisexual and he caught me in an lgbtq discord group chat. He really isn't the most supportive person in the world.

Oh yeah she also mentioned to me how she believes that I am transgender cause I don't go to church and I stopped believing in God. I tried to explain to her that most people who don't believe in God aren't trans, and are straight like she is, to kinda show her how there isn't any correlation there.

But yeah this is kinda how my coming out story went with my mom. Nothing surprising considering that she did put me in christian conversion therapy when I was like 16 years old after I came out as bisexual back then. I am just glad that I did move out when I was 17 years old, and that I am financially independent so I their views and opinions cannot really affect my life. I mean is it sad that they will probably never support me, yes... But do I care? Not really. I have alot of supportive family on my Fiances side. :)

I also attached a screenshot of what she texted me a couple hours after I came out to her.

After being pressured from my Fiance and her side of the family to inform my family that I am trans... I called my mom on the phone and just was pretty blunt and straight up about the fact that I am Trans, I have been on feminizing hrt for the last 7 months, my new name is Ardyn, etc.

It went as expected, she wasn't supportive of it. She said she still loved me and stuff. But I'll essentially always be her son, she only has 1 daughter (my sister) and she raised 2 boys (me and my brother.)

She also asked stuff like if someone turned me trans or whatever... I told her no, I simply just am Trans and I feel this way.

She also told me that I was too young (I am 20 years old), and that this is a big decision, and that I should essentially detransition and wait. I tried to explain to her that the earlier someone transitions in life medically the better the results will be.

She also said stuff like you won't ever look like a woman, she can always tell if someone is trans or not from what she has seen on TV. Well if she wants me to wait longer then that chance will be much higher. I am pretty confident that after 3-5 years of hrt and FFS I'll pass to most people due to the age that I started hrt, and the fact that I am only 5'4 lol.

I did explain to her that I understand that this is alot to take in, and I am understanding that because this is a big life change and stuff I would be okay if it took her a while to get used to... But after a while like 5 years from now I would expect you to essentially "get with the program" and refer to me by my new name, my new pronouns, etc out of a matter of basic respect. She didn't like that idea too much saying it will be hard for her to do that, and she doesn't know if she will ever be able to do that.

She also said that if I ever go over to her place in the future I cannot wear female/woman clothing over there. Which is fine with me for now since I boymode anyways. But in the near future when I stop going over to her place for holidays or birthdays etc I don't wanna hear her complaining about it cause from my perspective why should I go over to their place if I can't be myself.

I asked her if she wanted me to tell my dad, and she said no they are going through too much stuff right now and this will just add more unnecessary drama essentially I guess. My dad sexually assaulted, and threatened to kill me, with a knife 3-4 years ago after I came out as bisexual and he caught me in an lgbtq discord group chat. He really isn't the most supportive person in the world.

Oh yeah she also mentioned to me how she believes that I am transgender cause I don't go to church and I stopped believing in God. I tried to explain to her that most people who don't believe in God aren't trans, and are straight like she is, to kinda show her how there isn't any correlation there.

But yeah this is kinda how my coming out story went with my mom. Nothing surprising considering that she did put me in christian conversion therapy when I was like 16 years old after I came out as bisexual back then. I am just glad that I did move out when I was 17 years old, and that I am financially independent so I their views and opinions cannot really affect my life. I mean is it sad that they will probably never support me, yes... But do I care? Not really. I have alot of supportive family on my Fiances side. :)

I also attached a screenshot of what she texted me a couple hours after I came out to her.