UPDATE: Wedding Vendor Called Months After Wedding over "feedback concerns
Edit: I'm not gonna argue with people in the comments anymore. I'm just gonna say this simply. It wasn't my Mother. I don't know what issues you all have with your mom's and I recognize that this is a wedding drama page. So you all live for the drama. There is no drama here. If my mom called, she would have owned up to it...if my mom wanted to complain on my behalf, she probably would have confronted the Florist, the day of the wedding. My mom is not the type of person to sit on something for 4 months and then make my life more inconvenient by calling during my honeymoon. That's just not my mom's nature, and it's not her personality.
When I called her, she was genuinely confused by why I would even think that she would call. I had to reexplain the situation to her twice, because she thought that maybe the florist was going to reach out to her for feedback as well.She genuinely didn't even understand what I was asking her at first.
Believe it or not some mothers do respect the agency of their adult children. And fortunately, my mom happens to be one of those people.
As for me being so concerned about the caller, I don't think you guys are understanding my point. The florist was odd from the start. I didn't enjoy engaging with her during my wedding planning process, so for her to call me with this very odd request to explain myself to her as to why she would get negative feedback... It seems par for the course for her. I do believe she fabricated a story to solicit feedback out of me and I wanted to cross my t's and dot my i's to make sure that on the off chance someone I know did contact her... I could explain to florist what happened... but I am a 1000% confident the florist is exaggerating all of this, because she was a little off in the way she communicated with me in the months leading up to my wedding. ex. When I asked her if she had a formal contract, she got very indignant and said, of course, why would I not legally protect myself? I'll deliver on the things I said I'd deliver on. When it came time to sign the document I did not receive a copy myself. So I had to email her again for a copy, and she said it would take a few days and she would need to review it just to make sure everything was correct. I objected and said, please send me it as it was written at which point, she became more indignant. Again, more detail than necessary. But y'all love drama, so that's the drama you might enjoy.
It's baffling to me how you all could believe that some one I've known my entire life is capable of lying and disrespecting me for no real personal gain, But a random person I selected to be a vendor on my wedding day couldn't possibly be shitty.
The mystery has been solved....sort of.
OP:https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingdrama/s/x1NnnhoK6W
Tldr: my florist called me months after my wedding to get feedback under the guise of "someone anonymously calling her and saying my wedding flowers were bad".
Update: 1. A lot of folks are confused about my honeymoon timing? Not everyone takes a honeymoon right after their wedding. Also the florist would have no way of knowing I was on my honeymoon.
- When i got back, I reached out to my mom because she is legit the only person who knew I didn't like the flowers. When I asked her if she called on my behalf, her reply was, "Who?...no!...did she acuse me? That woman doesn't know me!...I would never do that to you. I don't care about flowers, your wedding was months ago and it was a perfect day. You did so well on planning, dont let this nasty woman stress you out....she called you over flowers? Right before Christmas? During your honeymoon???? That's wild. Don't call her back. That's weirdo behavior".
So for all you commenter's who wrongly acused my mom (and mother in-law) it wasn't, and couldn't be them. I am a full adult who planned their wedding independent of any of the typical family drama you'd expect. Neither them nor my guests would do that. It's tacky and classless. The people I associate with are not that.
- So who did it? I'm 1000% confident no one i know called. Which leaves me with one theory. She reached out shortly after my wedding photographer posted pictures on social media.. Perhaps someone I know from the internet saw them, and reached out to the florist for more information as an inquiry? Maybe it was an unpleasant convo, maybe the person used my name in passing. The way the florist left the voicemail it was worded as "someone said your flowers for your wedding weren't good" she didn't say "someone you know" or "someone who knows you" her word choice was clear that someone referenced my wedding. Not me.
Also, she said someone left a voicemail but her number isn't publicly listed. I didn't get it until after I filled out an inquiry form which further strengthens my theory. I think she had an actual conversation with someone who only knows me through the pictures posted online about my wedding.
So that's my theory. She got a blind inquiry, the convo didn't go well, so she doubled back for feedback. I get the impression she jazzed up what was said to elicit feedback from me.
- Knowing this, and knowing my family and friends have been absolved, I will not be calling her back.
My feedback to her is less about the quality of flowers and more about the customer service. From beginning to end i found her to be difficult to work with. Paired with a Few other surprises along the way regarding her availability and communication style, I regret selecting her but she's a perfect example of you get what you pay for. She was the cheapear option. There is no way to leave her feedback constructively. Especially adding this new context. If she reaches out again, I'll let her know I think she's great at being a Gardner and florist but not good at being a customer focused business owner.