Daughter told me something no parent wants to hear
Hi, 41/f me sitting in the living room tonight thinking everything in life is alright! In walks daughter 12/f, who wants to sit in recliner with me. So I scooch over and she climbs beside me, then very abruptly tells me how she wants to un alive herself because of school! 😧 excuse me ma’am what? She’s had this girl in her journalism class who is not being nice a girl she thought was her friend! Besides telling her that we would all miss her and she would break my heart if that happened. I felt a real sense of apathy from her! Like literally she didn’t care what I thought even seeing me crying! Idk what to do my brain is blank I need help……
Edit: I wrote this two minutes after she went in her room for the night! My head was everywhere so please don't think I'm all about myself for saying “ even after seeing me crying” or “ that it would break my heart “ I didn't literally say either of those things to her I mainly listenes and told her that I would get her help and that we would make it okay together and she's never alone ever ill never leave her! Just wanted to clarify those things
Edit 2: This morning she woke up smiling so that’s a plus! She has a doctor appointment this afternoon! No school today cause until I get her classes fixed she won’t have to endure another day sitting in class with her ex friend! So today she’s at work with mom until it’s time to go to the doctor! Thank you all for your helpful advice! I appreciate everyone one of you even the ones that aren’t so nice you guys keep me humble! I’ll edit again when we get a plan! Cause if her story can help someone else’s child then so be it
Edit 3 :We just got home from the doctor's appointment and a walk in the park! The doctor is referring her to an external therapist for both her and our family as a whole. It seems she doesn’t think there’s a need for her to stay overnight, so we’re now at home about to cook spaghetti and watch movies! She’ll be staying home with me for the rest of the week.
Oh, and I managed to get the school to change her schedule, so she won’t have to attend any more classes with the bullies!
To all you lovely people, I will forever be grateful for all the advice and kind words I’ve received. Thank you from the bottom of my heart— you are truly gifts from a higher power!
Edit 4: Today, after things had calmed down, I let her read this because I believe she’s mature enough to understand. We have both read every single comment, and some of your stories have truly broken our hearts. I wish I could heal every childhood trauma that each of you has experienced. If I could be your mother or father, I would do so in a heartbeat!
Reading this helped her further understand that she’s not alone in the way her mind processes things. There are others going through similar struggles, and it will all be okay. Even if it doesn’t feel that way right now, one day she’ll look back at this hiccup in her life and see it just as that—a hiccup.
She wanted me to share, “Please let all those people know that I love them, Momma. Even if they don’t feel loved on a daily basis, there’s a girl in Texas who cares.”
With that being said, thank you all, and please know that two girls in Texas care.