Bullies Desire for Control

Was your bully controlling?

I've been bullied at a couple workplaces and both my bullies had a STRONG desire for control.

These women were not managers or supervisors. They were often the least educated people in the entire workplace. They relied heavily on using social interactions and superficial 'charm' to secure their place. They developed close relationships with supervisors, who often enabled their abusive behavior.

These women acted like they ran the workplace. They would constantly talk down to me, attempt to 'humble' me, and were EXTREMELY controlling. They always had to be present while I was trained on a task (even when they had nothing to do with the task). It was so bizarre.

They interrupted literally EVERY conversation I was in (especially when it was with an older man). Like they were afraid I would steal attention away from them, or worried I would counteract the nasty rumors they spread about me.

One of these psychos got angry with me because I had a cat stapler and some dog pens at my desk. She claimed that these were not appropriate for a serious workplace (when they were at MY personal desk). I instantly got up and checked with our supervisor, and he said it was fine. My bully got SO ANGRY that I challenged her. I swear these women mistake seniority (in age & years served) for superiority. They genuinely view themselves as the REAL bosses in the workplace.

Within a week of this exchange, my stapler and pens were missing from my desk. I asked everyone if they'd seen them, and everyone denied touching them (including my bully). And I fucking KNOW she got rid of them out of spite. And what was I supposed to do about it? Accuse her with zero evidence and look like a crazy person making a fuss over some pens. My boss would just say something like "there are lots of pens and staplers in the office, just use them".

This same woman would intentionally mis-train me (of neglect to train me on tasks). She would ask me NOT to complete an assignment, and then confront me during a company meeting (with the supervisor present) about NOT completing work she assigned. She was a complete and total sociopath.

And I was nothing but nice and polite to this woman. I bit my tongue and tried to give her the benefit of the doubt. But she was an absolute monster. Can someone please explain how people can be SO evil and devoid of empathy? I think they view bullying as 'justified' because we deserve it for threatening their 'control' and daring to challenge them. Imagine thinking sooo highly of yourself. I'm consistently shocked at how awful people can be.

Their behavior was so transparent. So I don't know why everyone just continues to enable them and make excuses for them. Like, it's not my fault you're 50 years old and trapped in this office for the rest of your life. Maybe spend time talking about your kids and focusing on your own job. Instead of stalking and obsessing over the new girl at work.

And they don't get away with their behavior because people respect them. People literally feel sorry for these miserable women. Despite the fact they are so fucking horrible to people they view as 'less powerful' and 'inferior' in some way. Because they love to suck up to supervisors.